I can’t count on one hand the amount of posts I see from my friends stating that they are leaving a social media platform, and the reason…
Because everyone else’s life seems amazing and put together while theirs is a mess. This made me wonder, how many of those people’s lives are actually as they seem and what influence does social media have on mental illness.
Now personally I happen to love social media as my family and friends don’t live anywhere near me. I live a very busy life so don’t always have time to check in with the people I care about as much as I’d like so social media makes it so that I can just have a quick glance at what they’ve been up to and how they are doing and it lets me prioritise those who really need me.
In general people use social media for a lot of different reasons, some people use it because they want to be famous, some people use it because it gives them access to fascinating people that they wouldn’t meet without it, some people use it to keep in touch with friends and family and some people barely use it at all but find that the inspirational quotes make them feel better etc.
For me, if I’m being honest it’s a mixture of all the above, with a little bit of stalking exes in the mix, lol. Would I like to be famous, no not really because as funny as this sounds, I kinda like my privacy. I know I tell you a lot about myself but with the blog I can choose what personal details I would like to share whereas if I was Lady Gaga famous I would hate that everyone would constantly know my business. That said, would I love to have a lot of followers on Instagram, etc – well the answer to that one would be yes – simply because, more followers equals a better opportunity to spread love, understanding and awareness of self love and body positivity to a larger audience, plus I get to meet some pretty amazing people along the way.
Hiding behind lies and filters on social media
If you follow me on Instagram you will see many photos of me with scruffy hair and no makeup as I like to be as honest and real with you as possible but that doesn’t mean that i don’t hide behind lies and filters too, if we’re honest with ourselves we all do in a way. We all post about the good moments, the moments that we are proud of, the moments that we want others to know about but how often do we post about the awful moments or even just the plain boring moments? Think about it this way, if someone followed you for a day and filmed a day in the life of you, how well would it match your instagram feed?
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So why do we hide behind the lies and filters then? Well the answer is quite simple… We do it because let’s face it, who wants to post about how mundane and run of the mill their life is, who wants to tell everyone every aspect of their life and why would a bunch of strangers want to know.
On the flip side, if all we see online is how much better someone else’s life appears to be in comparison to our own it is easy to let it affect us in a negative way. The solution… Well, all you can do is either leave social media or try to remind yourself every time you feel a little twang of jealousy that it is just a post, a post that they want you to see and not really a representation of how their life is. In reality, they will probably be looking at your images and thinking exactly the same because as humans we a predisposed to want others to like us, to want others to see that we are successful and put together and to do whatever we can to ensure that people, especially those that don’t know us, see us in the best light possible.
How do you think Social Media affects how you feel about yourself and others? Do you compare yourself/your life to what you see online?