It’s important not to go through life alone. This is because we are social animals, and we need company as much as plants need sunlight. Of course, you’re likely not going to look at this in an anthropological sense. Having someone with which we can share our life with, whether a partner or close friend, simply feels better than not, and can help us through the hardest times. It can also help us increase the power of the positive times… To do this, you will absolutely need a trusting partner. However, this is easier said than done.
It’s not always easy to find someone who will love you for you. This is not because you are flawed, because everyone is in their own way, but because sometimes you simply haven’t met the right person yet, or are unsure of what you should be looking for. Luckily, there are certain ways to increase your success. If you set your intention, usually things will fall into place. To find someone who you can be yourself around, and can trust infinitely, I’d recommend considering the positive:
Good Financial Sense
It’s always important to ensure your partner has good financial sense. This is because they will be less likely to impede on your financial matters, or stay unreliable thanks to an unwillingness to save. You can likely see their attitudes regarding money in the most light when the first honeymoon period wears off. To begin with, anybody in any relationship will likely shower the other person with gifts, take them to nice places, or buy that nice bottle of wine in the restaurant they head to. However, with time, it might be that they become more conservative with their funding. This is because they understand that saving is more important than splashing on temporary pleasures.We all have problems, small insecurities or big insecurities, and can lose our temper from time to time. The right response to having your worst exposed is for the other person to unveil theirs.Click To Tweet
You might notice an issue if they continue to splash like this around you. Of course, if they can afford it, then that’s absolutely no problem. However, if they work a regular job. It might be a little concerning how they spend so much on you, or on the combined experience you both have. There comes a point where treating you and expressing their appreciation for you slowly gives way to simple bad financial handling.
Sometimes, saving and being a little conservative or cost-cutting is a good way to go. It shouldn’t be anything major, but that can show a willingness to value the long-term over the short term. For example, being told ‘no’ to going to a fancy restaurant might feel bad and frustrating temporarily, but it could signify the willingness to value both of your financial securities over short-term pleasures. In its own way, this is just as much a token of appreciation, if not more, than a $500 bottle of wine. Would you rather enter secured couple loans with the person you can trust to guard finances, or the person who seemingly sees no restraint in recreational purchasing? I know my answer.
‘Love Me At My Worst’
When you get into a relationship with someone, often it’s because you really enjoy the best of what you have seen. This is good. Idealizing another person is normal and natural in the early days. However, soon that will give way to the understanding that no one’s life is a highlight reel. We all have problems, small insecurities or big insecurities, and can lose our temper from time to time. The right response to having your worst exposed is for the other person to unveil theirs. With the willingness to be candid and open about this, you’ll both find nothing but honesty with each other, and the foundation of your relationship will begin.
Of course, there will be times where you misunderstand one another. In these times, the only solution is good communication. This means not only should you look for someone who has the willingness to communicate, but the ability to. While it might be that you’re happy with someone who is strong but silent, if you have to cryptically try and assess their meaning and intentions at every moment, you’re in a for a hard ride.
Simply the willingness to be emotionally available can mean the most here. To do so will gift you the presence of each other, and help you work through issues. As per the previous entries in this article, you will be able to be much more frank with financial matters and also unveiling yourself to one another if this is followed. That makes for a win win situation.
With these tips, you are sure to experience an excellent time with your trusting partner.
Let me know in the comments what you look for in your perfect partner?
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