Starting college is one of those rites of passage which can be equally exciting and terrifying, and it’s really no wonder that not everyone copes with it very well. In fact, we could argue that the majority of people will struggle with starting college, as there are a number of challenges which are likely to crop up around this time. One of the biggest ones is that you will generally go through a period of either feeling lonely or worrying about feeling lonely as you begin college. It’s important firstly to understand that everyone experiences these feelings at some point or another and that it is perfectly natural to do so. You should also bear in mind that there are things you can do to make it a little easier on yourself. Those things are what we are about to look at here, so read on.
An Open Door
Here’s a simple little trick that can help you to make friends. As you are moving into your college dorm or wherever you might be living, leave the door open while you are there. What this will do is encourage others to stop and say hello, and if nothing else it means that you are going to be seen and start to see others. You will find that you automatically strike up a conversation this way, and you might even find that you meet your first true friend by doing this. Having a literal open door is simple, but powerful, and could make all the difference if you are feeling a little worried about having no friends early on in your college career.
Something that has been shown to help many college students before you is developing an interest in the arts. It might be that you already have such an interest — if so, that’s great, and it’s definitely a good idea to try and make the most of it. Involving yourself in different arts and cultural experiences is a great way of feeling less alone, particularly if you are looking into something which actually speaks to the college experience. So watching shows like The Perfectionists and reading books can really help you feel like others have been there before — because they genuinely have, and you are not alone.
Taking It Slow
It might well be that you are someone who needs to take it easy in order to make new friends, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You should not force yourself to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, and that might mean that you need to take it slow with regards to meeting people. So long as you don’t allow yourself to stagnate, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Go at your own pace and make sure that you are always comfortable with the social interactions you are trying to make. It’s not a race, and you don’t need a particular number of friends to prove that you are worthwhile.